i got a bit too late into the internet, during my childhood and early teenage years i mostly used the internet through watching youtube videos with no interaction from my part, or using skype to play videogames with the people i knew irl, and by the time i got into online communities reddit was already an established thing, and discord was just starting to become what it is today, so i really have no nostalgia, and no experience or recollection of what it was before it outside of my own pseudo-archaeological diggings through archives and the like. however a thing i can gather is that the barrier that once stopped people from getting "into" the internet has been much lowered to the point of almost vanishing entirely, and forums and other "obsolete" (for lack of a better word) internet ideas are meant for a much smaller userbase, and more importantly take a lot of things for granted of the user, which the average person would not understand.
reddit seems to be based on the same concept of forums, eliminating these two downsides, and is now one of the most successful sites on the internet. does this mean forums are simply worse? i assume as most of you think, not really, as reddit is not a place where meaningful conversations are encouraged (or even can be had). then does this mean reddit is worse than forums, and people are just stupid for picking a worse website? not really either, as the magnitude of internet users is immensely bigger as it was since the advent of forums, and with it the scope of the average internet user is wide and constantly changing, people will go to the place where they can find the people they care about, or go to the place they feel the most welcome. naturally this will almost always mean the most homogenized and depthless websites or apps (usually by greedy bullshit corporations, coincidentially, how do ya know -_-).
one can quickly get a whiff of superiority and start thinking of them as "normies" or whatever word is hip to call them these days, but one has to remember that there is never such a thing as an "npc", and everyone has interests, dreams, hopes and admirations, and we're probably ignorants in a lot of concepts they take for granted and may think we are "inferior" or "stupid" for not taking something as seriously (a feeling i assume all of us have felt once or twice).
however, for as long as i can remember, i've been (blessed or cursed, depending on who you ask, couldn't really tell you which myself) with a modest lack of social shame. as a kid i would simply not understand how other kids had so much trouble speaking in public, or getting to talk to new people. only as i've grown i managed to see in retrospective how many potentially, and sometimes just straight up embarassing encounters i've had, and yet i continue to live life the same way i did all those years ago, if i see something interesting, i'll jump into it, if i don't see something interesting, i'll look for it, i will not pretend to be something that i'm not, or adapt to something i'm not meant to be, and i don't expect that from anyone else either. this has brought me to find people who disliked me, considered foreign, or just openly hating me, and it has also brought me moments of shame where things could have been differently if i were just less oblivious to everything, that haunt me in the most unexpected of times. but most importantly, it also brought me to new interests and friends in the most unexpected of places, and that makes my way of life worth it to me, i take pride in knowing that if i disappeared, a lot of people would feel my absence (hopefully more for worse than for better).
while i do use twitter constantly, it's not something i am proud of and i feel it always brings the worst of me, as i feel interaction in such sites are fake and hollow, which don't really fulfill me in the slightest. however, in different online communities, whether it be discord servers or other more "private" communities, the "lurk more" mentality never really settled that much with me, so i try in my communities, such as my discord server and my twitch channel, to have a welcoming place where actual conversation can be had. if anyone else looked at my community they'd probably say it's "dead" given it doesn't have a fixed growth of users and posts, but whenever we do have some new user or topic, it's a smooth transition where real socializing and thought can exist without making anyone uncomfortable.
sorry for dragging you all through the ramblings of a crazy man that woke up at 6am and had nothing else to do, but what i'm finally getting at is that while i'm more of a special case and i only very recently joined, i could jump in with zero context and still feel welcome, every time i would ask something (even times i felt i was being a bit too stupid/annoying) i would get an honest answer and be allowed to take part in the conversation. what you have to understand is that most likely this community, or any adjacent or similar communities won't get much bigger than they are, but they're only useless if everyone forgets about it. while some may come and go (personally i've been mostly absent during my stay on this site for the last year or so and i apologize) it seems like quite a few people consider this an important part of their life, probably more than a lot of the communities with thousands of active users. everything eventually comes to an end, so there will come the day, when someone will have to pull the plug on this, for all you know this might be the last standing forum in the world by the time it ends, but when it happens, i hope you can look back and be proud of the community you've grown and maintained for as long as you could.
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